Usually, when you share the news of your unplanned pregnancy with close friends, a family member, or your partner, they want to offer advice out of concern for you. However, sometimes that concern can feel more like pressure. How do you know if the opinions of others are out of kindness or a desire to intimidate you? Let’s take a closer look.
They Insist on a Quick Decision
When someone is concerned about you, they want you to take the time to determine what’s best. A way to mentally manipulate or pressure you is to force a quick decision.
They may say you can’t wait and set up an appointment for you. They may even offer to drive you to the clinic. Without time to think clearly, they’re hoping you will panic and move forward with an abortion.
You’re Being Bullied
People who care for you take time to listen to your heart and understand your thoughts. However, pressuring you to get an abortion may look different.
Your partner may tell you they will leave you if you don’t choose abortion. Your parents may threaten to kick you out of the house or withhold money. Friends may stop calling. Each threat encourages you to “make the right choice.” In other words, do what I tell you, and I will support you.
Others might verbally criticize you for having another opinion or belittle you for wanting to consider different options. They dismiss your fears or questions about abortion, so you begin to doubt yourself.
You Get Blamed for Everything
When those around you only talk about themselves and how your pregnancy will negatively affect them, they’re pressuring you to choose abortion. They want you to decide based on their needs, not your own. They make you feel guilty for not considering their feelings.
Why Would People Pressure You?
People often pressure others to make a particular decision out of their own fear. They may be afraid of the responsibility or the financial obligation, and your pregnancy may take attention away from them.
According to the March of Dimes, symptoms of abuse worsen during pregnancy. What you need to know is that no one can legally force you to make one pregnancy decision over another.
You deserve to be safe and respected. If you feel physically or emotionally pressured to choose abortion, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233). You can also read the Warning Signs of Abuse on their website.
Talk With the Counselors at the Pregnancy Resource Center
We are here for you. Our counselors can help you determine the best course of action. Talk with us about what others are saying to you. No matter your choice for your pregnancy, the decision must be yours, and yours alone.
The Pregnancy Resource Center offers free and confidential pregnancy services, such as pregnancy and STI testing, ultrasounds, and counseling. To schedule an appointment, call (970) 945-5562 or ask about our Mobile Medical Unit locations. We care about you.
The Pregnancy Resource Center does not perform or refer for abortions.